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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Opposite-Tax9589 on 2025-10-23 18:54:56+00:00.

I am naturally an introvert. But I make good friends initially with people. These people are usually extroverts, love socialising, and are socially charming, and usually make friends with anyone. That is how I become their friend.

But I keep facing the same issue with such people. We get along really well 1:1. But then they invite me somewhere and I go only because I feel comfortable with them, but then I realise that they have actually invited other friends too. So I feel completely blindsided and also not able to gel or enjoy it anymore.

Or I just feel insecure that they are my only friend, while for them, I am just one of the many people they hang out with. I feel the power imbalance - like I am more dependent on them than they are on me.

It also makes me question how do they even see me. Am I considering them my good friend while they may just see me as an acquaintance?

Does any one else face this? It is like the very thing that makes them a good friend for me, is what makes it challenging to continue the friendship. How do you deal with this?