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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/pearlescence on 2023-09-08 19:41:47.

So, context: I am going to work after being a SAHM for 5 years. I have experience working in professional settings, but I am perhaps a little rusty. Obviously.

I was interviewing with a fitness manager for an entry level position for which I am qualified, and things were going well. I like her, we were jiving, we were both on the same page.

She asked me to give an instance when I had received criticism unasked, and how I dealt with it, so I was talking it through, and said something like, “very few people giving feedback are doing it to be a dick,” and went on to talk about trying to find what is real and valid in what they’re saying and moving through emotions to find the value of what they’re telling me. Which is a good answer, I think, if you take out the dick part.

After I said it I had a mental moment of concern, when i thought, “I should not have said that”, but was able to recover quickly and feel that, overall it went well.

Here’s the thing. I really want this job. Competitive pay, good benefits, family friendly. What do I do? Do I apologize via email? She didn’t say anything, or seem to register it really, but she also does not seem like an emotive person who’s going to say anything, she seems like she would probably just brush it off or file it away. It is a role dealing with clients, and so professionalism is important.

Or should I say nothing, hoping that she didn’t notice or didn’t care (it’s personal training, so I know a little locker room talk among trainers is likely)?

I don’t know. I’m posting for some feedback, because I don’t want to spiral put and overthink this. I just want to do the right thing.

Edit: Thank you all, I feel very reassured! I’m just going to let it go!