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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Yujibell on 2023-09-09 21:53:12.

Not sure where to go with this as most of the people I know are “happily” married and have been off the dating market for a while now.

I recently moved and put myself back on the dating market. The current state of online dating is awful. It’s like noone even tries anymore. I get asked out on dates, only to find myself burdened with extra responsibilities I didn’t ask for.

New to a city? I’m still expected to suggest a restaurant, make a reservation, and figure out how it fits in my and his schedules.

Tired after work? I’m still expected to cook something for both of us at my place, even though I barely know this guy. He just tries to invite himself over.

I have no experience with first aid? You bet some crummy dude I met last week will drive over to my condo building, put some bandages in my hands and expect me to perform first aid on his injuries while bleeding on my carpet.

It’s not an isolated incident either, it’s like everyone. I tend to take on extra responsibilities at work for a potential promotion and at a part time to earn extra revenue. What’s the point to have to do it at home for free while he sits on his ass and waits? Is it written free labor on my forehead or something? Do I look that nurturing and caring to you? Even if I am, how are strangers feeling entitled to this kindness from the get go? Is this how women are usually treated by society?

I said no to all of them, but I needed to rant. I’m tired. I can put all that effort into my loved ones and myself instead. My friends treat me better than all those men. My asian parents keep putting pressure on me to marry. Why would I entertain literal strangers who can’t even put on a band aid themselves let alone marry one of those losers.

Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk