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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Tiny-Ad5878 on 2023-09-10 05:48:13.

Disposable account because too many people who know my family follow me on reddit and I don’t want this to spread.

I (F38) am the oldest of 2 twin siblings, Lili (F30) and Sam (M30)

Background: Sam was the golden child, because my parents always wanted a boy. Example: they were going to an amusement park, while my sister and I stayed with a babysitter. My brother was also a spoiled brat because of this, things changed when Sam started high school. From what I know, a teacher realized the situation, and when talking to our parents didn’t work, she talked to Sam and well, I don’t know what she told him, but Sam seemed to be more aware of things, and he started to change. gradually. It got better, he apologized to me and Lili, and refused to do anything if our parents didn’t treat us fairly.

Currently, all three of us have limited contact with our parents. I’m fine with Sam, I’ve forgiven him for his behavior a long time ago, but not Lili. She never wants him close, she is cold and never goes to events where Sam is present, except family ones.

Lili got married 3 weeks ago, she invited Sam, and he brought his wife, Kate (30). She has fertility problems.

The wedding was wonderful. And then came the reception.

When everyone finished the first meal, I saw Kate coming out, and half an hour later Sam did too. I was worried, and decided to go see if everything was okay. I found them in the bathrooms with someone who worked there. Kate looked terrible, I don’t think I’ve ever seen someone so sick, and Sam was very worried. In the end they had to leave. Now the place was small, so it’s not impossible that someone saw us take Kate to the car, since when I returned several people asked me if everything was okay. I told them that Kate had vomited and that she really felt bad, so they decided to leave early.

At one point, Lili’s SIL joked saying something like “Oh, it would be funny if they said she was pregnant.” But a cousin clarified that Kate had infertility problems, so the conversation turned to the difficulties of having children and how they hoped that this would be Kate’s “miracle.” Me and the other bridesmaids tried to divert the topic, but my sister was obviously angry.

This morning, I woke up and saw a post from my brother and Kate, announcing the pregnancy. I am very happy for them. Lili is furious. She called me to complain, in short, that “he once again stole an important moment from her life and still has the nerve to announce his baby.” She said many more things that I won’t repeat because they really seem horrible to me. In the end I got fed up, and I told her directly to grow up, that what happened wasn’t Sam’s or Kate’s fault. There is no way they planned the pregnancy for this time and she should be ashamed for reacting like that. She yelled at me that I’m an idiot and now she doesn’t answer my calls.