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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/PrestigiousCar851 on 2023-09-10 23:23:30.

Me and my husband recently had our first child. After IVF treatements, thousands and thousands of fertility, and a few miscarriages we had her. Our family is proud and its just such a blessing ti have her. Our family, my mom and dad and my two sistsers and their SOs and kids, gather every other Sunday for lunch where grandma cooks and everyone can relax and the kids can play. I was holding my daughter when business came up. Me and my husband own a business and insurance, and ect ect. My parents are the beneficials if something ever happened god forbid. My husband has disenvowed his family since he was sixteen, so its just my side. One of my sisters, lets call her K, suddenly said, thats weird. Why are our parents the ones to inherit money if something happened to us when they are older and retired (have their money) while she is struggling to pay her bills. K has been engaged for the last 11 years to a man thats 25 years her senior and is very odd. She d had 5 kids by him. She and her family gets evicted yearly due to the damage they do to the apartments and are overall struggling. In my opinion, something that they do to themselves. She refuses to work and allows her kids to rampage. Shes also recently gotten in trouble legally because she was selling her food stamps for cash and was caught. I immediately tried to change the subject but my mom didnt notice and said, “Well now with baby if anything happens, well adopt her and the business.” My sister snapped and demanded why she wouldnt be the next in line to raise the baby, you know, in the event me and my husbands DEATH. i tried to change the subject again. She demanded why id trust our 70 year old parents with a baby over her, an ‘experienced mother.’ I snapped too. I told her how shes getting evicted every 6 months. How everytime she thinks her boyfriend is about to leave her she gets pregnant. Years ago, she had a cps case opened against her for leaving 2 of her toddlers in a running car at a gas station. I had some.low blows, I admit. Her kids are always dirty. Snot down their faces, knotted hair. Their teeth are rotting out of their heads. She gathered her kids and left. My other sister sent a ‘not cool text’ and my family had two members that died in 9/11 and we have a family gathering every year so my parents are asking me to apologize and put this behind us so we can focus on that tomorrow. No! Im sick of it. Shes calling out my new parenting when shes barley hanging on? She used to drop her kids off on our doorstep, barley clothed, and then return the next morning. And shes upset I dont want to give her guardianship if me and my husbands death happens?!?!?