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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/tllj03 on 2023-09-11 00:29:15.

My partner and I (only recently married) have been together 9 years. Early on we discussed how we would have 3 children. We had our son, now 5, and after this my partner was adamant he didn’t want another. I said I wasn’t mentally prepared to have one and only. I was an only child and orphaned at 15 and wish I had siblings, he grew up with 7. Anyways I said I wanted atleast one more. He wasn’t happy about this and I said I wasn’t budging and it was kinda a deal breaker. I didn’t babytrap him, he could have left. He agreed to have another supposedly because he didn’t want to lose me. After TTC for 2 years, he also agreed to undergo fertility treatments as we were having troubles. Long story short, our second and last child is here. He’s been a great dad to our first and has shown little interest in this baby which I understand. I realize I’ve basically become a single mom in this situation, however he knows there’s an expectation to help here and there, which he does. However, when he’s in a mood or when he sees I’m overwhelmed for doing literally everything (both kids & housework), he loves to throw it in my face that this is what I wanted and he doesn’t want this “damn baby” and “doesn’t want to take care of him.” I feel heartbroken but I think I did it myself.

ETA: Our initial conversation about starting to TTC happened in 2020 when our son was 2. He ultimately agreed. This was followed by proposal, marriage and a house. After fertility troubles, we began treatment in 2022 and baby was born 2 months ago. I guess after all this time, yes, I wasn’t expecting husband to act this way?