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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Ok-Weekend-6699 on 2023-09-11 05:35:41.

I’ve been with my partner for 9 months now and over the past 6 months there have been a few comments regarding women that have concerned me.

To me, it is a core issue because I believe the opinions that men have about women affect every aspect of a relationship whether that be finances, raising a family, running a household, careers etc.

These comments have been about how it should be 50/50 in a relationship and how women can pay which is fine but then goes onto how he doesn’t agree with marriage because only women benefit from it as women get 50/50 if it doesn’t work out. Plus he wants kids which doesn’t make sense with this logic. Am I the only one where this whole logic doesn’t make sense?

The other comments that have been made about how women blame everything on their hormones yet men aren’t allowed to blame things on testosterone yet it affects men a lot. Also him saying “it’s not all men” whenever I’ve brought up an issue about how unsafe it feels to be a woman in our society.

I’m tired of explaining my view and feeling like I have to defend myself when I explain how we live in a patriarchy which affects women. I feel like I’m overreacting when I think it’s almost a dealbreaker for me. Am I overreacting? Is this normal? Should I just deal with it?