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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Senior_Buyer7288 on 2023-09-11 11:51:34.

By in-laws I mean my daughter in law’s parents.

So ~2 months ago, my daughter-in-law(f26) gave birth to my lovely grandson.

My family and I are Bulgarian Orthodox. Before my grandson was born i told my son and his wife that I’m going to pay for all baptismal excepenses and any childcare expenses for the first year, as long as they gave the kid an orthodox name.

They both agreed without much consideration. They named him David Antoiné. David is the orthodox name and Antoiné in honor of the uni professor who mentored both my son and his wife and who sadly passed away during the covid pandemic.

The thing is. While my daughter in law converted to orthodoxy, her parents are atheists of african origin(ivory coast) who moved to France. They really wanted they’re grandson to have a traditional ivorian name.

So 2 months ago when the baby was born and they found out about the name and the deal they threw a massive fit, directed primarily at my wife and I. Name calling, cursing, accusations of racism…

And frankly I wasn’t having any of it. I told them that they were insensitive and insulting to not only my religion but also that of their daughter, to their daughter’s decision and to the mentor of both their daughter and my son.

I told them they are uninvited to the baptism due to their behavior unless they apologize to the parents of our grandchild. Both my son and his wife agreed with my decision.

The baptism is next week and while I’ve been no contact with them, my som tell’s from the discussions they’ve had they’re still pretty angry and unwilling to apologize but they said they will come to the baptism wether i like it or not.

My sister tells me I’ve been acting like an asshole towards them and I should let them join next week if they show up. I maintain that they will not be allowed at the after party.