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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/ReadyorNotGonnaLie on 2023-09-11 21:12:51.

To clarify on the title: My bf (we’re both early 30s) understands that domestic labor is important. He knows that keeping a clean home is important to me and I think he does his best to accommodate that. However, the thing that gets to me is that he absolutely refuses to perform any kind of domestic labor task himself. He’s lucky that he’s wealthy enough that he can afford to outsource literally every single one of these tasks to different services. For example, time to clean the bathroom? He’ll hire a service to do it. Laundry? Same thing. And thankfully he always tips them really well.

I do all of the cooking for us, which I do not mind at all because cooking is a major hobby of mine, so most of the time he eats healthy home-cooked meals. However, the second I’m gone for the night and won’t be there to make dinner? He gets on his phone and orders take-out. Even if the “cooking” would involve boiling water for pasta and that’s it, he doesn’t care and he’ll order takeout, because he claims that he “values efficiency over nutrition.” But I feel like this is what a lot of men say? If I wasn’t living with him I think he would literally be malnourished because (aside from showering and basic personal hygiene) he just does not care at all about taking care of himself properly.

Am I justified in being bothered by this? Or am I just being a nag?