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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/mccal1cj on 2023-09-11 17:30:31.

Like the title states, I’ve been recovering and 41 days sober from alcohol. I’m okay with this being knowledge to everyone because it will eventually come up organically with anyone in our lives. Drinking has always been a part of our relationships. This weekend I spent time away with a friend and my wife spent time with her friends. On both days she told separate people (more than one conversation) that I had spent days in the hospital. She did this without talking to me about it or even thinking about if that’s something I’d like to have disclosed… she says that she had a right to talk about it with them but I disagree. That detail is very embarrassing to me not that anyone should be embarrassed for seeking help in that sittuation, but nonetheless, I am for that detail (being so severe and without control, feeling weak). These are all people who are mutual friends and I’ve spent years knowing and hanging out with, so I consider them my friends also. I’m just very disappointed and upset with her and we’re clearly in a fight now. The fact that I put her through my alcoholism has made any of my complaints seem small because of the magnitude of it all. So, I feel defenseless. She definitely seems to feel empowered. She’s already accused me of drinking on one occasion because I had a long day at work and wasn’t the happiest. I haven’t and do not plan to drink, I’m looking very positively on my future with out drinking. I want to be done and free of it as much as anyone would want it for me.Thanks for letting me rant. Typing it put has helped.