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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/The-Paradigm-Shift on 2023-09-11 20:04:19.

This is a rant about a male Dr. with no bedside manner.

Over the last 10+ days I have had a mass on the inside the lower part of my left labia minora. This mass has progressively gotten larger, now the size of a large grape, and very sore, leading me to believe it is a Bartholin Cyst that was becoming infected. So, after many days of scalding epson baths and sleepless nights I put my pride aside and went to the ER, as I do not have a family Dr. and the pain is quite intense. The first thing the male Dr. does is squeeze it, causing me visual dicomfort- hands balled into fists, gasp of breath, it was horrible. However, there was absolutely NO beside manner. No, I’m sorry this will hurt, I can see your uncomfortable. Nope. He then tells me it can’t be a Bartholin Cyst because those are inside the vagina. Uhm… What?! Then he tells me he can lance it if I want him to, or could wait it out. After asking him what I should do, cause I’m not a freaking Dr, he says wait, but he will lance it if I want. At this point I start crying because I am in so much pain, and I am so overwhelmed. The accompanying nurse asks me if I want a minute, and I tell her yes please, hoping to calm myself down, and her and the Dr. leave. I decide to head home, and as I’m getting my pants on my dear husband, who I had been texting updates comes in the room. I relay what has happened and as he hugs me, the Dr. comes back in. He is immediately nicer, and I tell him I have decided to wait. Husband asks him about what I should do, and Dr. says Epson baths 5-6 times a day for the next several days. (Let me just squeeze a few baths in while at work shall I? 🙄) I ask about pain and he says cold packs, ibuprofen and Tylenol. He then just turns and leaves the room. Goodbye to you too Dr.

I cried on the way home, because I am so sick of this shit! If it had been on a mans balls, I bet you he would have been a hellova lot more gentle. All I’m asking for is to be believed that I am in pain, and that I am scared. I want just a tiny bit of bedside manner. Is that so fucking much to ask for?!

Anyway, that was my rant and my heart hurts for all of us vagina/ uterus owners who’s problems and pain are dismissed. It’s not right and it’s not fair.