This is an automated archive made by the Lemmit Bot.

The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Majestic-Garden0319 on 2023-09-11 19:01:33.

My son (3yr), was admitted into the hospital for 5 days in severe condition. His father (30yr), has always been a bare minimum father. His child support, involvement, or even asking about him is all at minimum. He has no visitation or rights since we were married, and he told county he didnt want visitation. So, I have to approve all visits. This is his only child. He never calls of work when he is sick, gives excuses why he can’t have him on the weekends, etc. However, he has plenty of vacation and PTO to go on vacations 3-4 times a year, but he won’t provide anything for his son. If his mother didn’t ask for my son, he wouldn’t see him. Yes, he still lives with his mom. A week ago my son got sick, I tried to care for him, but he needed intense care and fluids. I told his father he was in the hospital, and wouldn’t wake up. After hours of intense treatment, his father finally showed up to the hospital, stayed for about 2-3 hours and left. He told me he would be back the next morning, he never showed. The day after he came for another 2 hours, and left. Work was more important, and he didn’t want to call off. He made a joke that one day off would shorten my child support payment, I told him I didn’t care about child support, I needed a break and his son needed him. Two more days go by, everyone knows how my son is doing but his father. Finally, Sunday came. My ex’s first off day since our son was admitted. Surely he would be there! Nope! He went to a bar with his gf to watch football and drink the entire day away. My son had to stay another day, he still wasn’t improving too well. I called his father, I needed a break, clean clothes, and fresh air. Slurring his words, he tells me that he would be there eventually but no time soon. I told him to not come, especially drunk. Hours later, 10 at night he comes in with his gf, I’ve talked to, she’s been around my kids, but never met me officially. I was pissed and lost it. I told him to make his gf leave. She said she wasn’t going anywhere. I told her she had no relevancy to my son, and had no place in the hospital. My ex stated over and over “that’s my gf”. They’ve only been together 1 year, and trust me, settling down is not his game. I told them both, that my son have been in the hospital for 5 days, his father has only been there for 4 1/2 hours. So mathematically, that’s an F. And now isn’t the time to pretend to be daddy to make yourself look good to your gf. Needless to say, she refused to leave. So after a few colorful words, I had her removed, she got agressive. I made him leave too. Sending him off with “being a father isn’t a publicity stunt to get laid, be better to be excused”. Am I wrong??