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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/No_Cash_9810 on 2023-09-11 21:47:32.

Hi, I’m F 24. I was the result of a “one-night stand.” My mother and father decided to raise me together as friends, so I lived with them 50/50. There wasn’t any child support or something like that; they just split everything equally.

My mother comes from a very wealthy family, and I’m the youngest and only granddaughter. My grandparents always say I was their lucky charm because the day of my birth was the day their company made its highest revenue, which started all this wealth. The second youngest grandchild is 13 years older than me, so everyone in my mother’s family views me as the “baby” and always takes me with them on trips or buys me something expensive/ rare.

My father married my stepmom when I was nine years old. She had twins from a previous relationship, a boy and a girl, who were older than me by three years (My mother never married because she doesn’t believe in marriage).

Before my father got married, he sat with me and talked that nothing would change, and he always kept his promises. I was happy for my father, and I really liked my stepmom and the twins, but we weren’t that close, and that’s okay; you can never force a relationship. I always felt like there was something wrong with them when I got to go on trips with my cousins or get a new electronic.

My father tried his best to provide for them, my father family was more involved with them and with my half siblings (they don’t like my mother because she refused to marry my father or something like that, and they never tried to have a relationship with me either).

I just finished my university two months ago, and my family planned a huge party; everyone was invited, and we had a great time. One of their many gifts was a world trip, and here is where all my troubles started.

After a week or so, I started getting calls and emails from my father’s family, calling me an inconsiderate, spoiled prat. At first, I didn’t understand why, but then it hit me; they never saw how my mother’s family treats me or how wealthy they are. In short, they think I had this crazy party and received ridiculous gifts just to show off and make my stepmom, stepsiblings and half siblings miserable.

Now I’m in the other part of the world, just staring at my phone, and I don’t know what to do. I talked with my mother; she just said to ignore them. My father says he will deal with them, but I just don’t know where I went wrong.

I just want an unbiased opinion: was I the asshole?