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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/limonadebeef on 2023-09-12 09:13:41.

most people i’ve gone on dates with were very nice. but occasionally i’ll go out with someone who for some reason imply that they’re “settling” for my looks or that i’m not attractive.

the two most notable times it’s happened us is 1. with a guy i went on a date with, and he got a good look at my face and said “yeah i can work with this.” and 2. with a woman who told me to my face “yeah i’m not really into attractive girls they have to be a little ugly for me to date them.”

i am not white and i’ve accepted i don’t fit eurocentric beauty standards as a woc. but i like to think i’m a 10 regardless of what some arbitrary beauty standards say. but i just don’t understand what compels someone to say something like that to someone they intend to date. admittedly i am very new to dating as i’ve only put myself in the dating pool for a year. so maybe this post is just coming off as obvious that i’m probably naive when it comes to this stuff. but to experienced women on here, why do they say that? also how do you not let comments like that hurt your self-esteem?