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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/dadmomhousedrama on 2023-09-12 08:36:28.

I’m 16F.

My mom and dad are divorced and they are both 45. I am their only child together and it happened when I was relatively young cos dad realised he was gay and they’ve always had a cordial relationship since. My dad has since remarried as has my mom so I have 2 stepdads. It can get confusing so I’ll call them Steve (48) who is my dad’s husband and Mark (47) who is my mom’s husband.

I’ve always split the time between both houses as its a flexible custody agreement. I love both equally but I’ve always preferred my dad’s house cos the room is bigger and because it’s just me there. Mark has 2 sons who are just always there and loud and they make a lot of mess. Not in a malicious way but they’re just annoying teen boys. The house is only 4 bedrooms so they already take up 2 but now, my mom and Mark are taking in Mark’s 2 nieces and a nephew cos his sister died and they want to stay with the family. This means that both Steve’s sons are gonna have to share a room and my mom said it wasn’t ideal but I would have to share too. My mom and Mark said it would only be until they find a bigger house but I know they can’t afford one and I refused. All the kids are younger than me and I don’t wanna share with one. Plus the noise and mess would be multiplied and id have no privacy at all.

I got really annoyed cos my mom was getting upset and said she was trying to make the best of a bad situation and I ended up calling my dad and asked if he could get me. I told him how I felt and after talking about it more with Steve too I decided I don’t wanna live at mom’s anymore because one house with 6 kids isn’t fair. I went back with Steve who calmly told my mom what I wanted and he helped me get all my belongings from there and I’ve been at his and my dad’s since.

My mom has been calling and texting a lot as has Mark who has been telling me I’m breaking her heart because ‘she isn’t doing it maliciously, we are trying to help out family who have nowhere else to go.’ I understand that but they don’t have the room and I don’t wanna sacrifice my privacy. I’m really annoyed cos why are they taking in kids they have no room for? My dad is really annoyed with my mom too cos I struggled a lot with Mark’s sons moving in and he thinks she’s putting too much on me. Steve has been really supportive and isn’t badmouthing anyone and thinks I’m justified in my hurt and has been hugging me and stuff a lot since I can’t stop crying. AITA?