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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Forward-Fix4882 on 2023-09-12 18:49:53.

I’ll try to keep it short.

I have 3 children: Daniel, Rebecca and Ava. Daniel & Rebecca are married and Ava recently got engaged.

Long ago, when my wife and their mother died I made my children a promise: That I would pay for their wedding no matter the cost.

And while I didn’t explicitly state it, the one implicit condition I had was that the wedding be organized close to our city, where we all live. For no particular reason other than logistics.

David organized his wedding on a ranch that was only a 3h drive away.

Rebecca in the city.

Now that Ava is engaged she said they’re thinking of organizing the wedding over in Europe; France or Italy.

I told Ava I am not willing to pay for such an expensive wedding that would require most everyone to take a transatlantic flight, just to take another one back the day after.

She got mad, said I’d be an asshole reneging on my promise. That David & Rebecca got their wedding paid for so why can’t she? I can afford it anyway so why not pay?

I suggested they organize the wedding somewhere closer and then they go for the honeymoon(which will be paid for by me and the groom’s family) to Europe, but she refused.

Part of me feels like she is right, and I am going back on my word.

But part of me finds it ridiculous to have to fly to Europe for my daughter’s wedding.