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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Glittering_Work_344 on 2023-09-12 23:42:01.

So, I’ve never really been one to snoop. My boyfriend of 4.5 years has never given me a reason to be concerned about him hiding things from me. However, several night ago, he was in his office playing games with and talking to the boys. I was hanging out in the living room, just on my phone and only heard bits and pieces of his side of the conversation. I wasn’t paying a lot of attention so I really didn’t hear much of what he was saying.

At one point, it sounded like he was talking then stopped and I did hear him say he’d be right back as he was already halfway to the door. He came out of the office, saw me sitting on the couch, asked what I was doing, and asked if I was ready to go to bed. I thought it was odd because 1) he was clearly not done playing and we usually go to bed together and 2) it was pretty early for us and I even jokingly pointed that out. He laughed it off then went back into the office and told the boys he was back. I can’t explain it, but it gave me the feeling he had originally stopped talking/ came out of the room to see if I was within earshot. When he went back, he didn’t continue talking and, instead, started typing (I can see into the office from the living room). I never asked and I went back to scrolling through tik tok.

The next morning, he left for work and left his computer unlocked. He doesn’t usually leave it unlocked (I sometimes use my own profile on his desktop which is how I know) and my gut told me to look at his chat with the boys because of that weird behavior from the previous night. Side note: I basically have a photographic memory when it comes to dates and times, so when I saw a message stamped at 10:11 pm from the previous night, I realized that was 2 minutes after he had come out to “check up” on me.

The message: “I wana fck a btch from every country😂”

Clearly, he didn’t want me hearing that which confirmed I was right about his odd behavior. So, 4.5 years in and he wants to do that…? Part of me wants to confront him about it. It’s giving me anxiety. Do guys just say crap like that and not actually mean it? Or is that his way of saying that he doesn’t give a shit about being in a relationship and is going to do whatever he wants regardless? Makes me question if he’s already cheated on me and is just a really great liar.

Why do men have to act like that? Or is this just normal behavior for them? As a sensitive woman, that was very hard for me to read and not take personally.