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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/sunnyb89 on 2023-09-13 00:22:58.

I recently got married and the day after my brother-in-law would not stop making jokes about my wedding night. His comments were directed at my husband but it still made me feel gross. He said things like joking about showing everyone the bedsheets, asking my husband if he felt less frustrated now and joking about him still not getting the cherry. My husband did tell him to shut up and he would for a little while but then he’d start up again.

I know his personality is the type that relies on stupid jokes and that’s the relationship he has with my husband so I’m trying not to take anything he says personally but I did ask him if he was into my husband in front of a large chunk of their male relatives. I did it in front of them on purpose and I knew it would piss him off. I should’ve shut up because he was clearly disgusted and offended but I continued and told him I’d describe it for him if he wanted. I can’t remember his exact words but he called me something along the lines of a “nasty bitch”. I know he definitely called me a bitch because my husband flipped out on him and now they’re having an actual fight which I feel bad about.

I’m not going to hold this against my brother-in-law and my husband has started to calm down but was I TA for purposefully interfering in their sibling banter and goading my brother-in-law?