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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/DietingFig on 2023-09-13 11:10:25.
Posting anonymous bc my probably future ex-BF knows my main account.
So I (woman, mid-twenties) used to be chubby. Grew up with obese parents, went through a big depressive episode after a break up then started counting calories and exercising.
I lost a lot of weight, and look fine now.
That is to say, I know both what it feels like being overweight and how shitty you feel when you start your diet.
So we went out for dinner with my boyfriend’s family- his parents, and his sister. His sister is slightly overweight.
Both the parents, the daughter and my BF order way less food than they usually do- I notice it, but since I don’t know why and since I’m pretty hungry (Skipped lunch because of work) I order a whole-ass hamburger with fries.
As I’m ordering, my BF says that maybe I should show support to his sister and skip the fires, or maybe pick a smaller hamburger.
Apparently, the sister’s on a diet, and since the family wants to help her they’ve all put themselves on a diet when she’s around.
I said I felt for her, but I was hungry- and their salads dishes were almost more expensive than my hamburger and fries. Since I was paying for myself and was really starving (like, hunger pangs level) I said there was no way I was having less than an hamburger and fries.
His sister got angry then, said I have a good metabolism and have no idea the effort it takes to lose weight, and seeing me eat my fries would be very hard for her. I was doing the equivalent of shoving a whiskey glass under an alcoholic’s nose.
Since I didn’t want to make a scene, I asked if my boyfriend felt the same and when he said yes, I just asked the waitress to make my hamburger and fries to go, then left the place altogether.
In hindsight, though, I’m starting to regret my actions. I know how she feels, and it wouldn’t have cost me anything to eat less with them, and stop by some other place on the way back.
Idk. Was I an asshole? I’m almost afraid to ask, ahaha.