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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/bekabekaben on 2023-09-13 21:03:12.

Sexual autonomy hinges on informed choices, mutual respect, and active consent. Within these parameters, safe sex practices are non-negotiable. If you’re compelled to remind, cajole, or beg a man to wear a condom, it’s a massive indicator of his disregard for your health and safety.

Responsibility for safe sex isn’t gender-exclusive; it’s a mutual obligation. Holding women disproportionately accountable for men’s safe sex practices is a fallacy rooted in deep-seated patriarchal values. Safe sex is the collective responsibility of all involved parties, irrespective of gender.

Consider this: Any partner worth their salt would prioritize your safety and peace of mind without prompting. The inability or reluctance to don a condom when it’s most important is a stark revelation of where his priorities lie (i.e. he doesn’t care about you, just himself). It’s not merely about preventing pregnancies; it’s about safeguarding against STIs and respecting boundaries.

If you find yourself in a situation where your partner’s compliance with safe sex is contingent upon reminders or appeals, reevaluate. Your well-being, both physical and emotional, is paramount. Anyone who compromises that, intentionally or out of negligence, doesn’t deserve you.

You deserve a partner who respects you enough to proactively prioritize safe practices. Never settle for less.