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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/throaery on 2023-09-13 22:33:54.

My (34m) wife (34f) have three kids in a 5 bedroom house. I am the breadwinner as I make >300k/year as a starter Interventional Neurologist. This is compared to my wife’s 150k a year. In this house, we have a sunroom that’s quite big. She wants to use this space as a place for her and her friends (she’s very socially active, they have frequent barbecues here and visits which can be kind of annoying).

Yesterday she proposed the idea of decorating our sunroom for her friends. I shut the idea down and told her a room can’t be dedicated to her. This is because for one thing, she wanted almost 4k worth of items, and another thing is she wanted Me to pay for it. She left the kitchen muttering “asshole” and has been giving me the cold shoulder ever since.

Possibly important info: Yes I do have my own space (an office within our bedroom). She does take care of our kids mostly because she works 32 hours per work compared to my 48 hours per week.

So reddit, am I the AH?

I just woke up from a nap my brain is still in sleep mode so I’ll try to answer questions about this story I wrote like a 6th grader.