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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Weird_Theme_2795 on 2023-09-14 00:29:38.
I recently went to see my parents with my newborn. It was just for the long weekend so my husband stayed home with our three older children. 7/5/3.
My husband called me when I was out of town to let me know his brother needed a place to crash. I said that he should give him a ride to a shelter or something because it was a bad idea to let his brother in our home. He has stolen from us before.
When I got home there were five very itchy people in the house. I immediately got back in my car and went to my parents house. My husband was calling me the whole time because he needed help dealing with the lice. I didn’t call him back until the baby was settled back in at my folk’s place.
I told him the pharmacy had the shampoo and comb for lice. He said he needed me to come home and take care of it. I noped. I said that he let his brother in our home against my wishes. His brother gave them all lice. I also reminded him that when our oldest got lice from kindergarten he didn’t help me at all.
I hate lice. They freak me out. I dealt with it because I had to. This time it’s on him. He said that he would have to use up his sick days to take care of this. I said tough shit.
He did it. He took his brother to a shelter, he deloused himself and the kids, and then he spent three days cleaning all the bedding and the furniture. He called me every day begging for help. I did not come home until his mothe confirmed that everything was done.
He is pissed that I stuck him with all that by himself. I know I should have helped but it was too much. I’m still not 100% from the baby. It was just too much.
NTA. Good move. Placing that responsibility directly on him because it was his fuck-up was a good message to send. It says that there are boundaries and there are consequences. People don’t shape up when you talk to them. People shape up when you make them clean up their own messes.
