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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/anonymous10532 on 2023-09-13 23:58:46.

I 24f am getting married in October. I will also be like 28 weeks pregnant at my wedding. I got pregnant on accident but my fiancé and I are incredibly happy about it. Didn’t wanna get married at 6 months pregnant but the wedding is already planned and paid for lol.

I’ve been a vegan since I was 16, when I could buy my own food and cook for myself. At this point I’m a vegan for a lot of reasons but a big one is the smell of most meats makes me want to vomit, including red meats and poultry. It has since I first became pregnant and has not let up.

Due to this, there will be no meat at my wedding. Not everything will be vegan but it is a meat free wedding. My fiancé supports my decision despite him himself not being a vegan and is on my side.

Now, my husbands family are very “meat and potatoes” type of people. I love them, we get along well, and I am part of the family. They have had a big problem with the lack of meat options at our wedding.

My father in law says it’s not a wedding without prime rib and other steaks. I’ve tried to explain that the smell makes me sick and I don’t want to puke at my own reception but he keeps trying to come up with solutions, none of them of which would work.

Our reception is in an enclosed building with a buffet style dining set up so I would be smelling it.

I tried to compromise with having fish dishes as seafood doesn’t bother me as much for some reason, but he got angry and now is saying he won’t come if there’s “nothing he can eat.” And my mother in law is behind him.

Am I the asshole for not taking his considerations to heart and should I just suck it up and figure out how to make them happy?

Edit: I lied I’ll put some of my food options here

A few things I will be having

Vegetable stir fry

Spaghetti and other pasta dishes

Cheesey garlic bread

Deviled eggs (a request from my grandma)

Whipped potatoes

Baked potatoes

Green beans

A medley of other vegetables

There will also be vegan options, like some tofu dishes, curries and rice dishes. But again, no meat. I don’t know why some people are surprised there’s no meat. That’s literally the reason of the post lol