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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Nervous-Chicken7899 on 2023-09-14 15:47:44.

I (25M) am marrying (24F) this coming October. We both have very large families, but hers is really poor and kind of traditional. As a result my fiancé has been taught to always go for the cheapest option throughout her life, whether we are going out to eat or buying clothes or going on holiday. Well, we’ve been planning the wedding, and the choice of venue was typical for her - a small local church where she was christened. Right off the bat, the place isn’t suitable for the number of guests who will be invited, and I knew she only chose that location because of money, which is not an issue.

I spoke to my father, and he agreed to fund a wedding abroad in Venice (I’m their only child so getting married is a big deal) and to arrange transportation for all the guests. He agreed to cover all expenses. So obviously I changed the venue and sent out invitations. I knew the money spent would make her anxious and she has always dreamed of visiting Venice so I waited to tell her until it was organised as a surprise.

Well, she didn’t take it well and said I was a massive asshole and that she had much preferred the church venue. She said it was too embarrassing to cancel it now that I’ve told people but seems really mad. I’m confused since that venue was never practical and am wondering if I’m the asshole here or if she’s overreacting.

AITA?