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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/AspectDependent920 on 2023-09-14 14:46:36.

This incident happened in a group therapy session last week. I (16m) was there and so was my dad and his wife, Dina. We started group therapy a few months ago because dad and Dina wanted me to be closer to my half siblings and didn’t like how indifferent I am to them (the kids). For almost two years now they have been up my butt about playing or watching TV with them or sitting with them and trying to engage with them more so they know I’m their big brother who will always look out for them. That is not something I want to do and never has been. Their pestering got so bad that I asked my dad if I could move in with my grandparents or my uncle. After that we went to group therapy together.

For a few months now we have been going around in circles. They want me to be more involved with the kids and play more of a brotherly role in their lives. Dina said the kids already look up to me and I should be making more of an effort because they are only this little (4, 3 and 7 months) once. She also said that her kids deserve more than for me to be indifferent to them. I have been asked why I don’t want to be closer to them and I said I see them more as dad’s kids with someone other than mom and not really siblings. I was asked if I wanted to change that and I said no and I had no plans to try and change that. We kept circling back around the same topics. So then my dad asked why I wanted to leave so bad. I told him I knew they would not let up on trying to force me to be more involved and I know he would also try and change how I feel.

It was the next session where they asked if I even loved my half siblings and I decided brutal honesty was maybe the only way to get what I wanted. So I did just that. I said no, I don’t love them, I’m indifferent to them. I made it clear I don’t hate or dislike them but I have no interest in changing how I feel. I will forever be indifferent. I won’t be a dick to them but I won’t ever be the brother to them they want me to be. Dina’s reaction was as I expected it to be. She was saying I should just go to live with my family then and leave her kids alone because I would break their hearts and not even care.

It was only afterward my dad was on me for doing what I did to get what I want. He said he knows I held back the last few months because I thought they would give in faster and he said it’s an asshole thing to want to leave so badly that I would hurt both of their feelings like that, whether it was in therapy or not.

AITA?