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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Throwaw-ay3427 on 2023-09-14 17:32:56.

My (51F) daughter (26F) used to be a med student, however she dropped out after only one year as she couldn’t handle the pressure. Since then she’s been jumping from low class job to low class job and it seems like she has lost all motivation of doing anything meaningful with her life. At the start of this year she introduced to think this man (mid 20s I think) as her new boyfriend. For a laborer he seemed like a decent enough guy, even though I was a little put off at how he’d sometimes start muttering to himself, but my daughter eventually told me that he has schizophrenia, but that he’s on meds for it in order to manage his symptoms and that I don’t need to worry.

However last week she announced that she got pregnant by the same schizophrenic boyfriend and that they already made plans to move in together by the end of this month. Honestly I felt so disappointed in her, not only did she tie down and plans to raise child(ren) with a man that needs constant medication to not be a danger to himself or the people around them, but she exposed her future child(ren) to the same fate as him, as schizophrenia is likely to pass onto generations and now at best my grandchildren will either needs to sustain themselves on meds for the rest of their lives as well or will straight up be locked up cause of their mental illness.

I told my daughter that she was incredibly irresponsible to get pregnant out of wedlock by a man who’s gonna pass his mental illness to her children, especially when neither of them are even well off cause of her giving up her college prospects, she told me that they didn’t plan for this child but they want to keep it and that she loves this man and she’s willing to raise a family with him regardless of their struggles they’ll face, I reminded her that while love is nice, it won’t solve all of the financial and medical problems her unborn kid will suffer from cause of her poor life decisions. However she suddenly started having a screaming tantrum about me not supporting her poor life decisions, I told her that I’m not gonna support whatever mess she landed herself into, which ended up with my daughter literally cursing me out and then storming off.

Today I received a message from my daughter’s boyfriend (my daughter hasn’t contacted me after our fight) where he told me that I’m a psychopathic monster for making my daughter cry for 2 days straight and to go to hell. Frankly I don’t know if I even want to respond to this message considering how unstable this man is, however I do want to know if what I told my daughter could’ve been taken in the wrong way, after all I still want what’s my best for her.

AITA ?