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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Significant-Past9506 on 2023-09-15 14:16:21.

I (26f) have been estranged from my father since I was 17 when I moved several states away to be with my grandparents. This was a decision made by him after the death of my twin sister.

BG: Our mom died when we were 7 and dad picked us both up and moved us so we could start afresh. He started dating one of our teachers within weeks of our move and they married and had more kids. When my sister was 15 she was diagnosed with cancer and she died after two years of fighting to stay alive. The last time she went into the hospital she told the nurses she only wanted me, our dad or our grandparents to see her and she did not want to see our dad’s wife or the other kids. When dad heard this he decided we would not go to see her. I argued against his decision. He said our half siblings wanted to be there and would always remember being denied the chance to say goodbye. I argued that the oldest two would remember at 8 and 7. But the others were four and younger and would not. I also said her final few days or weeks were about my sister and nobody else. He still refused and I told him I would never forgive him if he kept me from my sister, my real sister, the one I came into this world with and was supposed to have for my whole life at my side. He relented and I went every day until she died. My father said my actions meant I could not live there anymore or have contact with his family. He said he knew I didn’t care and that I was going back with my grandparents.

That was the last time I saw or spoke to any of them.

I had a baby a few weeks ago. I named her after my sister’s favorite flower. It seemed like a better way to honor my sister and give my daughter her own name. I posted about the story behind her name on Facebook and then my half sister who would be 16 now contacted me on some random account and said I should not be naming my daughter after “that girl” and did I not think about the fact it will alienate my daughter from her family because my sister is a painful memory for her and her family now. I sat on the DM for a few days and then I replied firmly that I did not care about their feelings and they would not be around my daughter. I said I have every right to honor my sister and to please stay away from my Facebook page, which we’re not friends on anyway, if she is bothered.

I had to go private after this because I was inundated with messages from her and my half brother who said I was an ass and cruel.

AITA?