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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/MoonRabit21 on 2023-09-15 15:57:25.

Last night, I (23F) went inside after I got done with work ( I work from home), and my cousin (15f) is sitting on the couch with the box for my $130 pair of shoes. She pulls them out and starts gushing over how cute they are and how they’ll be perfect for her quince. My aunt (40f?) Tells her she’ll also wear them after her quince since their the same size. While all this is going on, I’m just standing by the wall glaring daggers into my mom (50f), trying to push back angry tears. I know if I say anything, she’ll explode on me. So I left back outside cause I needed to put distance between me and everyone in the house. So I didn’t make a scene.

Two weeks ago my aunt told me they still hadn’t bought my cousin any shoes cause they forgot about it. I’m not close with this aunt nor any of my cousins from her and my uncle. This aunt is very shallow and likes to make little snide comments about things that people in the family do. She’s also taught her daughters how to do it as well. So I try my best to stay away. I told my mom that they still needed to get my cousin a pair of shoes for her quince, and my mom asked if she could offer the rhinestone sneakers. I told her she could offer hers but to not even think about offering mine. (She’s done this a few times in the past) I also told her not to bring it up again. My dad agreed with me and told me I didn’t have to give them anything else since I had already bought her bouquet. I thought that was that and didn’t think anything else of it

I’m outside, and I message my brother (21M) some unsavory things about our mom. He’s trying to calm me down and tells me he’ll be home soon. 20 minutes later, he comes outside and tells me he went off on our mom and tells her that she knew I didn’t want anyone to have my shoes, so why would she give them away. He did this in front of our aunt, cousin, and grandma (which I’m sure everyone knows is a big no no) they still took the shoes and left. My mom was livid he made a scene in front of them. We stayed outside for a while talking and finally decided to go back inside to check on my little sister and niece who were in my room trying to watch a movie. We’re talking to them when my mom comes to my room and starts telling us off. I yelled at her and told her again she had no right to give away something that wasn’t her and especially something she didn’t pay for. She got mad and told me I had two pairs. I told her that the other pair were hers, not mine, and that the price of each makes a big difference. We said some unsavory stuff to each other and called it a night.

So, aita, so getting upset?

Sorry if this is all over the place. My emotions aren’t the best right now