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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/aitasister00 on 2023-09-15 14:29:02.

My brother and I are very close, we always have been. We hang out daily, we live together, you won’t find a pair of siblings closer than us. My fiance knows that and in fact he’s really good friends with my brother. Whenever my brother and I hang out, my fiance is usually there too. All three of us are pretty close.

My brother has been going through some difficult times. We have a difficult relationship with our parents that’s a constant source of drama in our lives. And on top of that he’s been going through a really rough breakup with his high school sweetheart. They had been together for over a decade and he really thought they always would be, so it’s hard.

Understandably, he’s been feeling really low and really just unloved. I know that because he talks to me about it and my fiance knows that, too. I wanted to surprise him with a tattoo of his name just to show him I adore him, I’m his biggest supporter, and I’ll always be there for him.

I didn’t let my fiance know. I didn’t think I had to, but the main reason why I didn’t let him know is he is the world’s worst secret-keeper. Like, he’ll tell what my Christmas gift is as soon as he buys it. Every year.

So I went and got it done and showed my brother and he loved it and now he wants to get my name tattooed on him so we match. My fiance was there when I showed my brother and he didn’t say anything in front of my brother. When it was just the two of us, he started a huge fight that left us not on speaking terms. I’m not even sure whether I’m still engaged.

He says that if I was to get anyone’s name tattooed on me, it should be his. And that I should’ve let him know so we could discuss it. Maybe that’s normal for other couples, but we were never the type of couple that had to get permission from each other to do things that didn’t affect us as a couple. What really bothered him though was I admitted that I would never get his name tattooed on me. AITA?