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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Girl_with_long_hair on 2023-09-15 21:24:25.

As the title says he’s impossible when it comes to planning anything. We have been together 7 years and I love him deeply as he has many great qualities I adore, he wants kids and a marriage someday which we both agree too and want to wait couple years still. We’re 30 and 31yrs old, my only big gripe is he can’t plan anything. And if I try to make plans for him (drs, friends over, ect) then he thinks I’m being pushy. I gotta tip toe around him just for suggesting a plan of any sort and still he clams up. He’s a great guy don’t get me wrong, everyone is bound to be flawed, but I need structure, spontaneous is fun too but not when it’s your whole life. And yeah while he’s his own person and it’s not my job, responsibility or body, we live together and I am not a fan of last minute plans especially involving having people over because I want to clean up a bit before company. (Which I feel isn’t that weird) I do have bad anxiety and he has none so I know sorta the root cause sometimes but structure helps my anxiety.

Yes I’ve told him all this before but never really clicks, I’m not exactly looking for perfect solution, just possible things I haven’t tried (I tried therapy for me).