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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/ShutUpImAPrincess on 2023-09-16 00:23:58.

I genuinely don’t know and I need some perspective.

I’ve (28f) been with my husband (31m) for 8 years and we have a 6 year old together.

I had painted my nails this evening and needed to pee so asked him to help me take my underwear off so they didn’t smudge. So he did gingerly. Then afterwards I asked him to help me put them back on and it was a different story. He was fully disgusted by them and held them like a shitty nappy and kept saying how gross it was. I shower every day and have good hygiene, I only put the underwear on this morning. But he kept saying my “gunk” was gross and then went on to say “can’t you wear some shorts?” And I was like “what why? That would make it even more difficult when I need to pee having another layer, and it’s less comfy” and then he said “well shouldn’t you at least sit on a blanket or something so you don’t get your gunk on the sofa?”

I got really upset and told him I’m not a fucking dog. But I dunno maybe I’m overreacting, I’ve never gotten discharge on the sofa before but would it just be common courtesy to do so? It’s not a huge ask to sit on a blanket?

I don’t know if it’s worth mentioning or not but he’s also said in the past that I can’t put sanitary products in the bin when I’m on my period - I have to take them directly to the outside bin straight away. Also something im unsure about because although the bins get changed regularly, having literal blood sat in there for a couple days I can understand not wanting lol

Also earlier this week I was in agony because my coil had become dislodged and I begged him to see if he could see it to tell me how bad it is, how much he could see sticking out and he was visibly repulsed. But AGAIN I could just be being a dick because lots of people would find it gross looking directly into a vagina. (I’ve had it taken out now, story for another time but it was an ordeal).