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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Business_Resident_21 on 2023-09-16 05:04:38.

I coparent an 8yo boy (Noah) with his mom (Jessica). Noah’s mom and I were never really together but get along most of the time. She’s currently seeing this guy named Greg and it’s serious enough to where he’s moved in.

I asked Jessica that I’d like to know more about Greg and she said her relationships are none of my business. I said in this case it is because he’s sharing a living space with my son. At the very least, I’d like to see a background check. She told me she’s vetted him a long time ago and I should accept her word that he’s a good person.

I said if he is a good guy and you vetted him, then share that information with me. I would 10000% share that information with her if I was going to move in an SO into the same space as our son. That is my way of assuring my son’s mom that she has nothing to worry about. I think it’s totally rational. Other than that, I don’t care if she’s dating a space alien. Literally I couldn’t care less.

She refused so I told her that I’ll just hire a PI to make sure my son is safe while living in the same house with an adult who I know nothing about. She told me I was acting like a psycho.

Edit: It doesn’t matter of he’s the boyfriend or roommate or cousin or Captain Crunch. I want to know who’s living in the same home as my minor child.