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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/lunarelena on 2023-09-16 11:09:39.

Me (23F) and my fiance (26M) have been together for almost 2 years now and are engaged. Everything in our relationship is going pretty good, he also talks alot about having kids with me in the future and our marriage etc. But 2 days ago, he said something that bothered me a little and i can’t stop thinking about it.

We were watching a tv show and the people in that show were talking about their priorities (as in people). So then i asked him who his priority is, and to my surprise, he said “my dog, my brother and my parents” I paused, and i was thinking to myself “what about me?” But i didn’t wanna say that, so i told him “And what about when we start a family together?” to that he replied “Then my kids will also be added to that list.”… Still didn’t mention me. He saw the look on my face and asked “whats wrong with what i said?” I told him i thought i would be his number one. He smirked and said “so if a house is on fire with all of you in there, you’d want me to save you first while my dog, brother, parents, and kids are in there too?” I didn’t reply to that because i found it a ridiculous example.

Am i the weird one here? Am i wrong for thinking he would say i am his priority?? I always thought of relationships and marriage as getting a person to spend and built your life with, and that person should be your number one. I don’t think i want to marry someone who will never put me first, someone who will always choose his brother, parents, etc over me… Am i wrong for thinking like this?