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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/princess-bluberry on 2023-09-16 00:17:39.

So I (F25) just got married last Saturday the 9th. I had a beautiful ceremony up in the mountains overlooking a lake. It was a nice quick ceremony. Then we had a beautiful dinner after dinner we had speeches from both the maid of honor and best friend. the whole wedding was supposed to be less than people, but it was still supposed to be cocktail and a little bit formal which I specified at the invitations. After the speeches, everybody kind of got together in the living room.(the cabin was really big if it up to 30 people comfortably) when I saw that everybody was looking at a fight that was on. I told my husband (M29) thought it was upsetting me that instead of celebrating the wedding, they were just watching TV. I asked him to shut it off and tell everybody to go outside and enjoy the party. Instead he argued with me and told me that it would only take 20 minutes. We later talked about it. He understood he was in the wrong and how this was very important to me. I ended up asking them myself. Everybody just looked at me if I was crazy. This caused me to have a panic attack and very keep myself in one of the bathrooms for about an hour. My husband was with me the whole time trying to call me down. they eventually turn TV off and starting and joining the wedding but this whole issue ruined the wedding for me. I can’t stop thinking about it. Was I the asshole for asking them to turn it off?

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    NTA. It’s a little upsetting that this upset you so much, but you were right to be upset. Does that make sense? Like, it’s a legit problem, that bothered you more than it should.

    Those guests were being childish and awkward by turning on the fight at a wedding reception. Not cool of them to do.

    But also, it’s disturbing you felt so trapped by this conflict that it induced a panic attack. I think that indicates you have a little too much people pleasing about you, and you could work on being more comfortable with conflict.