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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/OutcomeSafe303 on 2023-09-16 03:19:03.

I F(26) have been dating my boyfriend M(27) for two years. Within those two years I realized that I put my emotional needs to the side to tend to his.

For example, if we are both having a bad day, I would put my emotions to the side so he can talk about what is bothering him and I can comfort him. He’s admitted to me that he feels I am the stronger one, emotionally, out of the both of us. Now here is why I get upset and can not tend to his love language. One of his love language is words of affirmation, and he constantly asks me if I still love him or if I’m happy with him.

Recently something happened to me physically where I was in a lot of pain and could only lay down to get some type of relief, if any. My boyfriend was there with me while I was in pain however kept asking me if I still loved him and if i was happy with him. I got fed up to the point where I told him I wouldn’t answer that question anymore and to stop asking me. I could tell I hurt his feelings but I was in a lot of discomfort where I needed him and I got upset that I had to put my physical and emotional suffering to the side to tend to him once again. AITA?