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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/inked-it on 2023-09-16 21:56:45.

Ok!! I know the title might not be completely fitting sorry I don’t know what else to put there right now… Basically my kids, 3 & 5, and myself, nearly 27f, have the flu right now. (If it matters husband is 30m) Kids and I’ve had bad fevers yesterday and last night, kids are bouncing around right now but I’m in bed sitting. I have severe allergies and asthma so I take a medication that helps but when I’m sick this makes it really hard for me to breathe and I get out of breath easily. My throat also kills and my entire body right now. Sorry if this seems irrelevant, I’m sick and I ramble sometimes!

Basically, I feel like absolute crap. It’s past their bed times. Lately especially - and almost our entire marriage (5.5 years) I’ve had to “nag” him to do literally anything. Now he’s been very much playing video games all day etc, and since Starfield came out, he’s been absolutely painstakingly hooked on this game. I am nonstop asking him 5-10 times to do anything now. For example, this AM I asked if he could make me breakfast and coffee and feed the kids etc. I woke up at 8 am, the kids woke up probably 6-630 am. He didn’t check to make sure the kids were changed; 5 y/o had her overnight pull-up on still, 3 y/o didn’t have a diaper change, didn’t get them anything to eat, didn’t walk the dogs, didn’t do anything. You know what he did though? Played starfield. Only does this all day, everytime basically that he is home, he’s playing star field /video games or on Facebook shorts watching. I am so fed up honestly. This isn’t just a today instance, this is every day / all weekends so I try to make sure I’m up with them at the same time so everyone is taken care of.

Anyways, part of the title here. I am sitting in bed, extremely stressed from the kids this past week from them and I having the flu, I want to sit here and do my cross stitching piece for his mother. The entire time the kids are jumping on and off the bed, going through our closet, pulling out documents from the filing cabinet, running around. It’s nearly 10 pm. I called him multiple times to come get them to bed over 30 minutes or so. He told me to get over it and snapped at me to close the bedroom door. First off, I don’t want it closed. I like the door open and the kids will swing it open immediately. The window is open, it’s hot I’m trying to get cool air inside and cool down - I also still have a fever - I told him no, that is incredibly unrealistic and this wouldn’t be an issue if he wasn’t on his video games literally every moment nonstop that he isn’t at work. I truly wish this was an exaggeration but it isn’t. He wakes up, video games, pays no attention to the kids and I have to bug bug bug him to do anything. Dare I ever ask him to walk to the dogs or take kids outside. Anyways, I told him I shouldn’t and wont sacrifice my comfort because he’s too lazy and sits on the video games 24/7. He told me “well COOL. if you can’t deal with the consequences of your actions then you shouldn’t be. ….” I put my headphones on because I simply can’t even deal with this right now. I just let it go normal days but I am way too sick right now for this. To be clear, I don’t have an issue with video games. I love them. I play maybe an hour or two early AM if I’m up before the kids until they get up. And sometimes after they go to bed I will play for an hour max.

Sorry for a long long rant. I’m just so annoyed. At this point, kids have moved all their bedding into my room so I still get no peace or sleep because he’s out there playing starfield and is fine with them in here. I’ve become so frustrated lately I want to cry.

Last note, extremely frustrating he won’t believe me sometimes about me thinking he’s in the wrong on whatever it may be, unless someone else says he’s wrong. Idk. Hopefully that makes sense.

Thanks for reading my vent post.

ETA: the consequences of my actions hes referring to is the fact that the kids are coming in and messing around because I have the door open to cool down better and be comfortable while he plays video games in the other room.