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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Glittering_Union_825 on 2023-09-16 20:44:15.


I(F46) have 6 older brothers. Our parents were trying for a girl but they couldn’t really afford 7 kids and I guess after they had us they figured having so many kids is too much to handle and let my older siblings raise us. Everyone(except me) were parentified so much that they all decided to stay childfree and got vasectomy to make sure of that. I am child free too.

Only one of my brothers has a daughter(14F). She is and will always be our only niece so naturally we all love her very much and we spoil her.

The problem is the same brother remarried recently and his wife has a 16yo son. This was unexpected considering even his daughter was an accident so none of us really expected him to marry a woman who has a child.

The issue is we all love spending all of our money to go to expensive vacations and any money that we have left gets spent on my niece. A few months ago was her birthday and the cheapest gift she received cost 400 dollars. As I said we all enjoy spoiling her.

A few days ago was the stepson’s birthday and we all bought nice gifts costing approximately 50 dollars each.

My SIL is mad because we bought more expensive gifts for my niece but I don’t know what else she expects. The only way we could afford better gifts was by using our vacation money or by changing the way we treat our niece, none of which we are willing to do