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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/chefmonster on 2023-09-16 22:22:42.

With the news about Danny Masterson and Russel Brand and all the people coming to their defense, I decided to open up to my mutual aid group about my experience with a much-loved local celebrity in our community. I’ve written about him before. A few months ago someone had come out about their experience with him, and it rekindled my anger, and he decided to “lay low”. I didn’t want to have to give too many details, but I am afraid that he’s going to try and start up again and I just wanted to put out a general warning in the whisper network. I have talked to other women and femmes about their experiences with him, and I have years of receipts.

Last night I called the lead organizer and she tried to pass it off as him being an unapologetic slut, a flirt, that this seemed like a “personal thing,” and that I didn’t need to involve the group. I said basically that I wasn’t trying to start anything, I just wanted to put out a general warning that he’s a predator and a liar and to be careful. This guy is beloved by thousands, he’s very charming, and puts up a very aggressive and convincing feminist facade. So I wasn’t surprised when she tried to defend him. I didn’t want to give out too many details.

This is why women don’t come forward. This is why we wait. The burden of proof is on us. We sometimes have to reveal vulnerable and embarrassing details about ourselves.

I figure that it will get back to him eventually, but I don’t care, because I’m being honest and I have proof. I don’t want to have to share it, because it involves personal information about other people besides myself, but I have it.

I finally revealed some of the main points. She just paused and said, “Oh, wow. Yeah. That’s really bad.”

I’m aware that this will potentially alienate myself from the group and certain people who will rush to defend him. I just really don’t want anyone else to be hurt or grifted by him.

It sucks seeing it play out in my little world. It sucks to see powerful people get away with shit and have people defend them even when the evidence is glaring. I hate it.