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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/RealAd-1812 on 2023-09-17 08:04:26.

So my family threw my sister a gender reveal and asked all the siblings partners to be part of the reveal excluding mine even though he had been the longest in the family and we’re getting married soon and the others are just dating.

We then had a farewell to a cousin and again my fiancé was sent around like a delivery boy once the farewell celebrations had started. More events had occurred and each time it was noted by both of us. The fact that it seemed like they didn’t really want him around.

Now I know you’ll gonna be like but maybe they don’t like him or he’s rude or something. So in order to propose he done the old school thing and asked for my parents blessing and they gave it happily. After a few family events experiencing the shift I spoke to my family to let them know what’s been going on as maybe it was done unconsciously. And they promised to try harder.

The next was the final straw was my sister’s baby shower. We helped with the decorations and then my fiancé was told he needed to bbq for everyone but the bbq was set up at the back of the house and the event was happening in the front of the house. When we asked if everything can wait for the food to be finished and then start the celebrations we got told yes. This man prepared everything or at least what we thought was everything, because the moment he’d finish and the celebration started more food was brought to be bbq’d. I got dragged to MC the baby shower and had to leave him until he was done.

I felt bad and tried to get my brothers and even my sisters brothers in law to go assist in speeding up the bbqing process but they refused. He could hear the laughter and jokes being made but unfortunately was not there for anything. Once done mc’ing I pulled my mom to the side and said this is what I spoke about and it’s not fair that it’s been happening and nothing seems to change.

My fiancé wanted to leave without causing an argument. And so we did an Irish goodbye to most people but greeted those who were on the way out and made up an excuse of me not feeling well to leave so that it doesn’t take away from my sister’s day.

We’ve decided to limit contact and just take time to think about how to go forward. My mom has now turned the table saying it’s my fiancé’s fault we left early and that we aren’t attending any other family gatherings and not mentioning anything they’ve done prior.