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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ConsciousFlight7402 on 2023-09-17 16:12:12.

So, long story short, I (28F) have always been on the outs with my family, particularly my sister, Jenna (32F). When we were kids, Jenna was the golden child. She was always praised for her achievements, while I struggled to find my place in the family. Over the years, I’ve come to terms with this dynamic and have since built a life for myself.

For the past 6 years, Jenna had cut me out of her life completely. She didn’t invite me to family events, birthdays, and we even missed Christmas together. I found out from mutual friends that she was speaking poorly of me behind my back. My attempts to reconcile were ignored.

Recently, I was lucky enough to have a startup take off. I am now financially well-off, which has drastically changed my life. Out of the blue, Jenna reached out to me, apologizing for the past and expressing her desire to rekindle our relationship. I was hesitant but open to the idea.

A few weeks into our “rekindled” relationship, she shared that she’s getting married next year. She mentioned that her dream wedding would be costly, and she and her fiancé couldn’t afford it. She hinted several times that it would be a “nice gesture” if I could chip in, suggesting it could be my “wedding gift” to her.

I told her I needed to think about it. My partner believes it’s just a ploy to get money from me. I want to believe Jenna’s intentions are genuine, but it’s hard to ignore the timing.

AITA for not wanting to pay for my sister’s dream wedding after years of being excluded from her life?