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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/NotYourBarbieGirll on 2023-09-17 20:14:24.

I 29f used to be in a relationship with a guy a few years ago. He was everything to me. Words cannot describe how much I loved him. We are Asians, and love marriages are not that common in my country, but we were determined to make it possible. It was a really toxic affair because he used to make me do all his work and fulfill all his needs; basically, I was performing all the wifely duties without being an actual wife. He dumped me three years ago because his parents found a potential bride for him and he could not let them down. I was shaken.

He was from a rich family, and I come from a humble background, but I never ever took a single penny from him or asked for any expensive shit. Once, during our final year of college, we both needed better laptops due to assignments and projects, but my parents weren’t able to afford them at that time, but his father gifted him a more expensive one. I was upset, and let me be very clear: I was not jealous of him; I was just upset that we couldn’t do anything about my laptop, but instead of supporting me, he said, “Girls are liabilities, boys are assets, and of course your parents won’t invest in a liability.” We had a huge argument after this because I am a single child and I know my parents love me.

Fast forward to now. He is divorced and has a 1-year-old daughter with his now-ex-wife. I, on the other hand, am thriving in my career and have no plans on getting married. After 3 months of him begging me, my friends, and coming to my city, I agreed to meet him. He was hoping to reconcile, but I flat out told him to just leave me, and anyway, he has a “liability” to take care of now, in a sarcastic way. He got confused, so I reminded him about that incident. He got upset is an understatement, and he cursed me out in public. I got scared and left without even arguing. I have nothing against his child, but I think I did something absolutely wrong. It was not intended and happened in the heat of the moment.