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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Professional-Poet401 on 2023-09-17 21:59:31.

My(48f) pregnant Daughter (25) and her husband are moving back to our city because of a job offer for my sil. They asked us to move in with us for a year or so because they couldn’t find an affordable house immediately. They will eventually buy a house here. I am thrilled that she is coming back. Not only because I missed having her close to me but also because of the help I can provide for her when the baby is born.

However there is a big problem. We have three bedrooms. My husband and I have the master bedroom and our son (16) has the second largest one. These two rooms are really LARGE. The third room is not small per se but in comparison to the other two it is. Also to small for two people (and a baby). My Son had the smallest room until his sister moved out two years ago. He was very happy with his new room.

I know that it is kinda mean to ask him to move back into the smaller room and his father and I are willing to compensate to him. His dad offered him a new gaming pc and when that didn’t convince him he said he can have a new phone of his choosing on top of that. But my son is adamant about staying in his room. He even called his pregnant(!) sister to tell her to f*** off and stay where she is. She was very upset after his phone call and cried when she told me. She also said sil has second thoughts about moving in with us after my sons tirade.

Today I told him to start moving his stuff into his old room and informed him that we ordered an iPhone 15 Pro for him and that his dad will buy him any pc he chooses. He was furious and accused me of playing favorites.

I tried to explain to him that the circumstances demand this and that his sisters needs have priority over his wants. But he refused to listen. He stormed out of the house a few hours ago and won’t answer my calls. My husband thinks I went to far and was an AH for telling our boy that his sisters needs are more important. Am I the AH here? I get that he is angry but his sister needs her family (including him) right now and that is more important than having the larger room.

Edit: sil is my Son in Law. There is no third person involved.

Edit 2: My daughter never was a ,golden child, she was always there for her brother and cared for him and I love and treat my kids equally. She got the bigger room because she had much more clothes and needed a bigger closet (he spends most of his money for tech stuff that is FAR MORE expensive then whatever we gave her for clothes before you get ideas).

I didn’t offer my room because this room is shared my two persons. He is one. Two persons need more space then one person .