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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Delicious-Juice-2385 on 2023-09-17 23:24:03.

I (20F) am the maid of honor in my sister’s (32F) wedding in a few months. My reputation is known as being fun and upbeat and a little wild, and upholding that reputation landed me a MIP/MIC earlier this year, and since it was my first run-in with the law, it scared the shit out of me.

I turned my life around in a matter of a week or two. Got a good job (for a college student), picked up on my studies, prioritized myself, quit going out, and ditched all the people who only hung around me because of my in’s and popularity at bars/parties. Doing this has helped a lot of my depression IMMENSELY, because I know the people I hold close care about me for me, not for any other benefits.

My sister is already a little mad at me, because I got my MIP right before her bachelorette and I refused to use a fake ID to get into the 21+ events she had planned. She told me “well, we’ll make an exception for the wedding. My best dance partner can’t be sober”.

I recently got the terms of my probation/diversion, of which i sign tomorrow, and I will be subject to provide a urine/blood/breath sample at any point during my probationary period. It’s 6 months of behaving and then it’s off my record permanently, so I don’t want to risk anything that could land me in more trouble. Even if it’s random 2x a month, I could still test positive if I were to be tested the week after her wedding.

I broke this news to her, and explained that I wouldnt be able to drink, and she was visibly hurt. I don’t know why drinking is such a huge deal.She said that it’s just one night, and I can tell my future PO that I’ll be out of town and cannot be tested. I told her I don’t think it works that way. the other bridesmaids have told me I hurt her feelings and are saying I can sacrifice one night since it’ll be my sisters only (hopefully) wedding. My dad is on my side, my mom on the bridesmaids.

I just would like to put in my 6 months of good behavior and have this whole situation be over with, but I don’t want to be a damper at my sisters wedding, so AITA?