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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Downtown_Round_3356 on 2023-09-18 01:35:36.

My(15F) parents divorced when I was 3, my dad quickly remarried after that to my now step-mother, no kids between them, tho my Step-mom (whom I’ll call ‘‘Dora’’) has a 16 y/o daughter (Sam) who quickly bonded with my dad because her bio dad has never been in the picture, he loves her and treats her as his own, but we’re not close and we don’t really like each other so anyway. She also lives primarily with my dad while I spend friday night to monday morning at his house and around 3-5 weeks during school break.

Now my paternal family is really outdoorsie, we like to do a bunch of things around that Sam is included and we just ignore each other during them while enjoying our time with others, however, my dad, grandad, aunt and I have a special treasure hunt we do around Christmas that it’s really special to me. It’s like the only real time I have with my dad because, while Sam is not as bitchy as some I’ve read here, she really likes to demand both my grandad and dad’s attention and since they consider me ‘‘tomboy-ish’’ they kinda ignore me to coddle her which sucks.

My dad asked me around my 10th birthday if he could invite Sam and I said no. I’ve been saying no ever since and while he doesn’t like it, he respects it, he does other stuff with her without me and I don’t complain. This year, however, Sam is very adamant on going and I just don’t want to, my dad is pressuring me to let her come as well as Dora, while my aunt and grandma are insisting he just leaves this thing untouched between us but my dad doesn’t want to hurt ‘‘his little girl’s feelings’’.

NGL, that stung o I said that if he really wants her there, then he doesn’t have to pick me up for Christmas this year and to just leave me be. I called my mom to pick me up and my dad tried to console me and apologize because I was crying but I just asked him to leave me alone and got to the porch to wait. Sam and Dora insist that I’m and AH and I’m acting selfish but the way I see it it’s not like that, this is the only real thing I have with my dad, I have to do everything else with him and Sam or else I get a nasty look. I get that dad loves her, I don’t care, but why do I have to share the only thing I have?