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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/GrandJeweler3398 on 2023-09-18 04:47:27.

My wife34f and I43m have two children together, ages 7 and 4. I work as an OBGYN, and my wife has been a SAHM mom since our youngest was born. I make very good money, so I’d always give my wife a good chunk to walk around with or do whatever with. She’ll go get her nails done, or hair, shopping. Pamper herself and I never minded. This year our youngest was capable of starting early head start vpk. Even though both kids have been at school, my wife continued to be a SAHM. I brought it up to her as we have a house cleaner so my wife isn’t busy cleaning, and I could afford an after school nanny, that she should start looking for a job.

My wife was furious when I suggested that, and said we live more then comfortably with my paychecks alone, that she shouldn’t have to give up her days to do unnecessary work. I tried to explain, as the kids age, and inflation rises, money will begin to get tight. Then I told her until she goes and looks for work I’d no longer be giving her money, and that it would be spent responsibly.

She was furious, accused me of being jealous of her “easy life,” and said i was being unreasonable and stingy. Our argument cooled off a few days later, but Friday I got paid and did not give my wife the money I usually do, and she exploded once again, saying how unfair I was being and how there was no real reason for her to work. AITA?