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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/OrdinaryStretch9017 on 2023-09-18 05:01:38.

Throwaway account because yes.

I (F20) have been dating “Adam” (M20) since we were 17. Ever since I have started dating Adam, his family is lovely and very kind to me. Except from Adam’s pregnat sister “Saddie” (F23). For more context, I am latino. Saddie has shamelessly shown her disgust towards me. For example, she has called me things like “exotic looking”, “lower class”, “not fitting”, she has told me how it is surprising that I’m pale considering my race, or a day she even said that people of my country looked like monkeys.

Adam’s family planned a trip and he begged me to go with them. I was hesitant at first but then I decided to go. Everyone treated me kindly and were very welcoming, except from SIL, that seemed pissed off for the fact that I was here. Firstly we got to a restaurant, we ate breakfast and everything was going smoothly. Until Saddie began to speak. She started to do passive-aggresive comments that were obviously towards me. I didn’t pay attention, my indifference clesrly got Saddie more pissed off and then she started to do more direct comments, regarding class and ethnicity.

I bit my tongue for the sake of peace. Bad idea, because Saddie continued with her BS comments. Nobody told her anything, not even my boyfriend. I was expecting Adam to stick up for me but he never did. At a point I took him to a more close place and asked him to please talk with his sister and put her a stop, that her comments were making me uncomfortable. Adam laughed at it and say I was being oversensitive, that Saddie was just hormonal because of her pregnancy.

More later, Saddie continued with her subtle insults and weird fixation for me. I snapped and told her to stfu and that she was being a total b*tch. Saddie got silent after that and began to cry cocodrile tears, MIL got angry and told me not to speak that way to her daughter. Adam also got annoyed and told me I had no rights to insult Saddie. I never felt more freaking humiliated in my life.

I told Adam that I’ve got enough and that I will be returning home. I gladly had few bucks with me so I called an uber and returned home safely. I haven’t answered any of Adam’s calls or text because I just don’t feel like it.

So, reddit. AITA for calling my SIL a b*tch?