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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ThrowRAnovelgnj on 2023-09-18 12:01:18.

Me (20F) and this guy(22M) have been talking for a month now and finally met last week since he works out of town consistently. He was very very eager to meet me. He asked me on a date and I accepted. Now before all of this he had asked me what I was looking for in a relationship and in a man, and I told him someone that it is kind and respectful, family oriented, empathetic, etc. Also told him specific what I was looking for in a man and it was a man being able to provide for me and pay for most dates, and love me unconditionally, a man who is into old school type of dating.

He told me that he had similar values and that he would do all of that for me. So fast forward to the week of our date, he set a time and place and even offered to pick me up so I wouldn’t have to waste gas. Day of, everything literally did not go as planned. Told me to drive to this mini golfing place and meet him there and I became confused about this and then he finally tells me his check engine light went on and he didn’t wanna drive that far so it’ll just be better to meet. I agreed because I felt bad and even offered to pick him up but he said it was fine. We get there and tell the cashier what golf course we want and then when it was time to pay he just turned to me and looked at me. I honestly had a blank look on my face and he rolled his eyes and payed. It felt awkward and I wanted to leave after that but I felt it was wrong and asked if everything was okay and he just said yeah.

Then it was time to sit down and eat. We had to download an app to order the food at this place so we decided to both download the app to look at what we wanted on the menu. Knew what we wanted and then it was time to pay. He finally asked me and said “So you’re gonna pay for this one right?” I was kinda baffled and didn’t know what to say. I ended up giving in and paying but I felt so ashamed of myself. After this we said our goodbyes and everything and left. He texted me the next day and said that it was fun hanging out and that we should do it again. I immediately blocked him and he decided to text me off snapchat which I forgot to block him on and asked if he did anything wrong. Didn’t even wanna respond and blocked him again. It felt weird because HE was the one that initiated everything? I honestly was repulsed

Edit: Okay now I’m getting d3ath threats. I get it. It was wrong to ask for things like that nowadays. But jeez?? For having different dating views? I didn’t know my opinion was that bad