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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/baileybabygirl on 2023-09-18 14:16:29.

Morning everyone

Okay I made a post about this yesterday, feel free to go look at my account to read it.

if you don’t wanna read it essentially: my husband and I had problems with him putting his mom first all the time when we dated. So much so it began to make me very insecure and resentful. When we got engaged something clicked and he changed his ways. Recently, after four weeks of communicating how I wanted to spend last weekend (yesterday and the day before) together he decided to go see his mom instead.

No updated - he tried apologizing and I just couldn’t accept it. I told him we talked about it for an hour and I continuously told you how you were triggering me and masking me very upset, I was in the verge of crying bc of our history together and you looked me dead in the face shrugged your shoulders out on your shoes and a hat and walked out the door. I told him it’s cool that you’re apologizing, but I don’t have to accept it nor do I have to forgive you. He kept trying to be nice and compliment me and say much he loved me, and I told him you don’t treat someone you love like that. To make it even better our one month anniversary of marriage is tomorrow. I wanted to do something fun and cute, but I literally don’t want anything to do with him.

I literally feel like part of me shut off emotionally Yesterday. I don’t feel anything towards him, nor do I want to talk or be around him - which is extreme because usually I’m always trying to bounce back into normalcy after we fight. He slept on the couch (I didn’t ask him to). I slept in the bed alone - which I preferred.

I literally don’t know haha I’m not trying to sound dramatic but I am REALLY hurt. I come from a lot of neglect and abandonment issues with my parents and childhood (which I’m learning to heal from) and for four years, I dealt with being second and grasping for straws whenever it came to his mom. I thought I’d never be in this position again because I trusted him, and here I am again feeling worthless and unimportant.

I don’t know how you can stare at someone you say you love and want to spend the rest of your life with, and they’re telling you that you’re hurting them, but you do the exact thing that they’re asking you not to do (which is justified bc it’d been four weeks of communicating).

Guys I’m actually so hurt, but I can barley feel it? It’s there I know it’s there, but it’s almost like my body is suppressing it bc it knows I’ll have a melt down or I’ll become worse mentally. I’ve had small little anxiety attacks since last night. Now I’m about to work

Idk guys, anyone have any kind words or advice?

Thank you - and I hope you all have a great week!