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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Dull_Sun_7260 on 2023-09-18 16:09:04.

So my husband and I are getting married this December. We’ve recently been having discussions about one particular person that I don’t want to be in the wedding. It’s his best man’s plus one. Let’s call her Katy.

So prior to about a month ago his best man (Jake) was in a relationship with my made of honor (Lily). Jake is my husband’s friend since high school, Lily is mine. We introduced them to each other shortly after me and him started dating and soon after Jake and lily started dating.

A month ago Jake broke up with Lily and nobody really knew why until it became clear that he had been hooking up with another girl - Katy, behind Lily’s back. Jake and Katy are now a couple and he wants to bring her to the wedding as his plus one.

So my husband and I got into a heated argument over it. He’s saying it’s none of our business who Jake brings as his date, everyone gets a plus one and it’s not fair that we decline his plus one.

My thoughts are that it’s bad enough that he did this to her (she’s been crying like nonstop since she found out) and she has to come to the wedding and pretend like everything is fine but he wants to bring the girl that he cheated with and my friend has to look at them, see them kiss and dance and have fun while she sits there miserable. I said he gave up the privilege to bring a plus one when he decided to take a big dump on my friend’s feelings.

Am I overreacting here or am I right to not want this person to attend?