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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Haleston on 2023-09-18 13:29:50.

My boyfriend and I are subscribed to various streaming services. There are two that only I am subscribed to and recently my boyfriend’s mother asked, if she could log on to one of them in with my account information to watch a specific show. Mind you: She has my phone number and we usually communicate via text messages, but in this case she didn’t ask me directly but had her daughter ask my boyfriend, who then asked me, lol. As if there was some embarassment involved on her part. I was fine with it and shared my password with her.

One day, I wanted to stream something on said platform, but an error message popped up, informing me that the number of people allowed to use the account at the same time had exceeded the limit. I was too shy to call my boyfriend’s mother and ask her to let me use the platform, even though I know I would have every right to do so since I’m paying for it. The people pleaser in me won, but internally I was frustraded by it.

A couple of weeks later my boyfriend’s mother asked my boyfriend (again not me) for my password on another streaming service and that’s when I started to feel taken advantage of. So I responded to my boyfriend: “Honestly, I don’t want to. I don’t feel comfortable with her using my accounts. I don’t want my use of the account to clash with hers and I’m uncomfortable kicking her out when we do end up clashing.”

My boyfriend didn’t like my response AT ALL. He said I needed to loosen up, it’s just that one show she wants to watch and we’re probably not gonna clash that many times and even if we do, I should just ask her to let me watch something.

I guess my general problem is that I would always to prefer to have my own paid account that gives me the freedom to use it when I please, instead of asking someone to share theirs with me to save some money.